Family Ministry Moments - August 2024
IS MY CHILD READY?
Recently I have had the joy of meeting with several parents and their children as I follow up on VBS decisions. It is one of the greatest privileges of my life to help parents lead their children to Christ. Some of the children I have met with are ready to follow Christ and some need more time. Parents ask the question, “How can I know if my child is ready?” A few years ago I published an article in the Oakleaves Newsletter and I thought it would be helpful to run it again.
Originally Published June 2019
One of my favorite parts of being a family minister is seeing little children become followers of Christ. This is such a special opportunity! It’s truly a wonderful, God-glorifying decision. I love getting to help parents counsel their children in this process; however, many parents struggle to know when their child is ready. This can be difficult but don’t worry, I have listed some important steps to help you know if your child is ready.
Start with Prayer – Never, never, never underestimate the power of prayer. Pray that God would speak to your child and call them to be saved. Pray for wisdom to know if they are ready. Just pray for your child in general. We can never pray for them enough.
Be Patient – The last thing you want to do is rush this process. If your child is not asking questions or doesn’t seem interested or even if they say they are not ready, don’t
worry. They should make that decision on their own rather than pressure from you. However, if they are asking questions and seem to want to know more then don’t wait!
Salvation vs. Baptism – Often kids equate salvation with baptism. Baptism can spark an interest in the child, but they need to understand that being baptized is not the same as being saved. We make the decision to follow Christ prompted by the Holy Spirit apart from baptism. Baptism is that symbol of spiritual cleansing that unites us with the church. It is the first step in living out our new faith publicly. We want children to be baptized, but only after they have made a
profession of faith.
Use a Good Resource – Find a good resource that will help you share the gospel. I love “God’s Plan for Me” from Lifeway. It is designed for children to know and understand the timeless truth of the gospel. It is also easy to use and helpful for parents who may not be comfortable with sharing. Lifeway also has a workbook called “What is a Christian?” that I find fun and helpful.
Use Scripture – It is very important to take the time to look up the scriptures from “God’s Plan for Me” in the Bible and read them out loud. Kids need to connect their faith back to the Word of God.
Avoid “Churchy” Words – Be careful saying things like “lost”, “confess”, or “ask Jesus into your heart”. Kids are concrete thinkers and can be confused with these words. Try to brainstorm ways to say these things in plain language they can understand.
Ask Open-ended Questions – Make sure to avoid yes-no questions. We can falsely lead children to make a decision they are not ready for. Ask them things like “Can you tell me why you want to do this?” or “Tell me what you understand about how to become a Christian?”
If They are Ready – Lead them to pray a prayer of commitment, then rejoice with them! Share that decision with your pastors and schedule an appointment to talk about baptism.
I hope these steps help you as you talk to your children about following Christ. Please feel free to reach out to me anytime with questions or to set up a meeting. Email me at